A lot of us with chronic illness feel uncomfortable with dating because we’re literally sick and tired, but also because we tend to be ashamed, embarrassed or unsure about what the other person will think.
The greatest thing you can do to overcome the latter feelings is to remind yourself that the right person is not going to care about what’s going on with the illness. They are going to love you more because of what you’ve been through.
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable with what’s going on with your body – you should leave right away. They aren’t the right one for you anyways!
Once you have internalized this truth – that the person who will make you happy in the long run is a person who isn’t bothered by your chronic illness – dating becomes fun!
And let me assure you, there are plenty of people out there who will be completely fine with your symptoms. You know why? Because 1 out of 4 people in the U.S. have a chronic illness. It’s not a rare thing anymore. It’s a “fact of life.”
Now that you know that there are people who will love you despite what’s happening, and now that you know that you should not stick with anyone who makes you feel less than royal because of what you’ve been through, let’s talk details…
- Online dating is a really good option if you have a chronic illness that makes it hard for you to be social or very active. You can “break the ice” by email and phone.
- Going out into the world and socializing is a great way to find dates if you have the energy, because you also get to meet people who could become good friends and you get to spend your time doing things that you love (like volunteering for a cause you are passionate about, or taking up a hobby).
Lastly, once you are starting to date regularly, make sure that you have a say in the dating activities. Suggest things that you are comfortable with! If you can’t do certain things because of your health, don’t focus on that. Focus on what you can do, and be vocal about what you want!
I hope this helps you. If you have any dating questions, be sure to leave a comment and I’ll do my best to help out.
Keep taking back your health,